Because of Carrie

“Why are there so many great unmarried women and no great unmarried men?” –Carrie Bradshaw

I know a lot of successful single women. I live with my two very successful sisters. And, I know of only a few successful single men. Wait, I believe I only know of two successful single men. Single means not married and has no girlfriend. Girl-friend yes but girlfriend no.

When asked why, an acquaintance of mine answered intimidation. Men are often intimidated with women who are more successful than they are. I asked him why. I believe a man should be proud if he is dating or if he has a girlfriend who is successful, right?

I once read a book that men want to be needed. I guess men believe in fairy tales as much as women do. They want to be the knight in shining armor rescuing a damsel in distress. They want to be Richard Gere riding a limo, waving his umbrella like a sword, and climbing the fire exit stairs in order to proclaim his love to a Julia Roberts. But being a successful woman does not mean that she does not need any rescuing. They need to be rescued from loneliness. Yes, they are constantly surrounded by friends. But what happens when they get home at the end of the day every single day? Yes, they have their families to come home to. But, what about as they get older?

Every woman’s dream is to have someone to have coffee with, to laugh with, and to fight and makeup with. No matter how far she has gone with her career, she hopes to find the right man. I do know a few successful women who got married. And I say, I admire their husbands for conquering their fear. I have always believed it is fear that is keeping men from these successful women.

What happened to all the great unmarried men, you say? Well, they got married. I know because I got lucky to have one. Some joined the religious life. And unfortunately, some become gay.